Buddy Up: How to Make Friends in a New City
How To Make Friends After Moving to a New City
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A little over a year ago I made the move to my dream city. It was such a thrilling experience! I welcomed the sites, the sounds, and the weather, which was significantly cooler than my previous location. The honeymoon phase lasted much longer than others suggested it would. I still whisper in awe, “I can’t believe I live here,” when I’m driving through areas I used to look up Youtube videos about or visit a place I saved to my “must-see” list.
But as the dust settled and I closed a year in my new city, I found a panging loneliness. I left all of my comforts in my old place – family, pets, familiarity – and I didn’t realize how hard the transition would be without them. Building a new social circle has been an uphill battle considering the fact that I’m naturally quiet and reserved, I work remotely, and I can be a bit of hermit have definitely contributed to that. Yet, I know life is meant to be lived alone sometimes.
How to Make Friends in a New City
Below are a few things I’m putting into practice for year two to build my dream community in my dream city. If you’re in a similar situation these can help you cultivate friendships and integrate into your new community too.
1. Become a Regular
Finding a hobby or interest group is an excellent way to meet like-minded individuals. Plus, when you frequent a place, you’ll soon notice familiar faces that can turn into friends. Look for clubs or classes that align with your passions, whether that’s hiking, cooking, or book clubs. Engaging in activities you love not only fosters connections but also helps you feel more at home.
2. Volunteer
Volunteering is a powerful way to meet people while giving back. It allows you to connect with others who share your values and interests. Nonprofits are always looking for help, especially during holiday season, and volunteering can provide a sense of purpose in your new environment.
3. Attend Local Events
One of the best ways to meet people is to immerse yourself in local culture. Attend community events such as farmers markets, art fairs, or outdoor concerts. These gatherings are often relaxed and encourage social interaction. Not to mention, shared interest can serve as a natural icebreaker. Use event platforms to find events tailored to your interests, whether they’re music, crafts, or food.
4. Be Open and Approachable
A friendly demeanor can go a long way. Smile and make eye contact with people you encounter, whether in a coffee shop or at a gym. A simple “hello” can initiate a conversation. My favorite ice breaker is to offer a compliment. If you see something that’s a connector – they’re wearing a tee from your college, your favorite color, or brand – use that to strike up a conversation.
Building a community and making friends after a move takes time and effort, but I believe it’s entirely achievable. By attending local events, joining clubs, volunteering, and being open to new experiences, hopefully you’ll find that your new city feels like home before you know it. Cheers to embracing the journey and enjoying the process.
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How To Make Friends After Moving to a New City was originally published on elev8.com